Forgiving Yourself as Part of Recovery

Posted by Barbara Comito, Marketing Director Jun 7, 2018 10:52:25 AM

Shame says…

  • You are ugly.
  • You are stupid.
  • You are worthless.
  • If people knew the real you, they would hate you.
  • Work harder, do more, try to earn love because who you are is not enough.
  • What you have done is unforgivable.
  • You are unlovable.
  • Just give up.

 The messages of shame are anti-Gospel.

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Lose the Label: Ashamed

Posted by Merrily Brast, Staff Writer Apr 15, 2016 1:28:29 PM

Ironically, victims of abuse often take responsibility for the violence inflicted upon them. The result is deep shame.

Ann Williams embodied this frame of mind. She was a victim of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse growing up.

“When you don’t have the tools to talk about the violence witnessed, as a child, you blame yourself. You can’t believe that your mom and dad could be bad, so you internalize that, and that’s what I did. I somehow believed that it was me, something’s wrong with me, not them.”

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When You Can't Undo What You've Done

Posted by Merrily Brast, Staff Writer Mar 22, 2016 1:06:08 PM

Ron James’ story is one of those unbelievable, too-good-to-be-true tales of a bad man turned good.

When he was 31, he murdered his ex-girlfriend and was sentenced to life in prison.

“You have taken the life of a human being, unjustly; it’s a horrible, horrible feeling, and you want to undo it, but you can’t. It’s done…it’s something you live with.”

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