“For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
It is a fallacy that we can perform externally in a way that is contrary to the workings of our hearts. We can put on behaviors or paste a smile on our face, but we cannot effectively minister to one another or thrive as God intended, when our hidden heart is troubled. “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” (Luke 6:45)
Consider the words of Paul Tripp in his book New Morning Mercies.
“Yet many, many believers live their lives with a huge separation between their public church personas and the details of their private existence. We are skilled at brief, nonpersonal conversations about the weather, sports, and politics. We are learned at giving either nonanswers or spiritually platiduinous answers to people’s questions. We live in long-term networks of terminally casual relationships. No one really knows us beneath the well-crafted public display, and because they don’t know us, they cannot minister to us, because no one can minister to that which he does not know.”
“No one really knows us beneath the well-crafted public display, and because they don’t know us, they cannot minister to us, because no one can minister to that which he does not know.” Paul Tripp (click to tweet)
No one can minister to that which he does not know. If we wish to heal from the inside out, we must risk revealing the “mess” inside.
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“Only when I stopped and looked, and realized what I had become, was I able to get the freedom that I had been searching for since I was twelve years old.” Mike Sholtz, UGM Recovery Program Supervisor