The Five C's of Children's Recovery

Posted by Lynn Yount, Staff Writer Dec 19, 2018 2:28:21 PM

 “Stay consistent in their lives, even when they’re the hardest to love.”

That, in a nutshell, is the key to caring for the children living with their moms in recovery at Anna Ogden Hall. Children’s Program coordinator Shannon Behrens recognizes that while their moms are the ones who choose to come into the Women’s Recovery Program to deal with their own problems, the children have also suffered and need particular care.

Addressing their needs takes intentional efforts from Shannon and the rest of the staff and volunteers in the Children’s Program. And while the program is highly individualized to match the needs of each child, there are a few common values that apply to healing children who already have been through enough trauma and hardship for a lifetime.

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A Long, Uphill Path for Moms in Recovery

Posted by Union Gospel Mission Dec 5, 2018 12:24:56 PM

By Kamee Bissell, Counselor in Women’s Recovery at Anna Ogden Hall

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Many of the women who apply for our LIFE Recovery Program at Anna Ogden Hall have lost custody of their children. The addictive lifestyle they have been living has brought destruction to the family on so many levels.

For most, it is a single-parent home without a great deal of support. Because of their choices, most of their family and friends have given up hope for change, leaving the parent feeling abandoned and overwhelmed with responsibilities. The women generally have no one to rely on but themselves. They enter our program driven by the fear of losing their children or of not regaining custody, desperately wanting change.

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A Brief History of UGM, Part 2: 1987 to Present

Posted by Lynn Yount, Staff Writer Aug 23, 2018 4:42:50 PM

Part 1 of the history of UGM covered our founding in 1951 through the retirement of Executive Director Harry Altmeyer in 1987. We pick up as his son Phil Altmeyer takes the reins and ushers in a period of growth to meet the growing needs of the community.

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Defining Toughness

Posted by Barbara Comito, Marketing Director Jul 25, 2018 4:10:18 PM

Ben Riggs knows tough.

A former Marine from the 2nd Battalion, 5th Regiment, Ben was a soldier’s soldier, part of a “grunt unit,” infantry, “tip of the spear – the front units, the ones that go in very first, like dropping out of helicopters – special operations capable.”

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Why Get Involved in a Church?

Posted by Lynn Yount, Staff Writer Jul 19, 2018 1:08:26 PM

Many of those who come to UGM for help have no family, or their families are still stuck in brokenness and addiction. Years of scrambling to survive may have turned their focus inward: “I need to look out for myself, because nobody else is going to do it. I’m all alone.”

When they encounter God’s love and the good news of Jesus, they know they need other believers for encouragement, accountability, and support as they move forward. They need local churches to step up, befriend and embrace them. They need a new family.

But family life isn’t a one-way street. God’s design for the church is for interdependence, with Christ as our head: “From Him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work” (Ephesians 4:16).

The Body of Christ actually needs UGM residents and alums as much as they need it.

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Recovery from Abandonment

Posted by Barbara Comito, Marketing Director Jun 27, 2018 4:23:34 PM

Stephanie sums up her childhood in just a few phrases: “A lot of broken promises, fighting, a lot of neglect, never being told I love you. No affection or encouragement from either parent. No stability. No structure. No safety. I was on my own.”

Stephanie’s parents were both addicts. Her mom hoped Stephanie’s birth father would marry her when she got pregnant, but he didn’t. “When my dad didn’t want to be with her anymore, she hated me for it. She was trying to save the relationship and it backfired, so she held that against me.

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Recovery: Facing Anger at God

Posted by Barbara Comito, Marketing Director Jun 20, 2018 10:25:37 AM

“I was really angry with God and confused about…Well, if God really loves me, then how come I had to go through all this stuff? You know, there’s plenty of people out there that didn’t have to grow up the way I did or see the things I saw or get exposed to the things I was exposed to…And so, why me?”

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Justin Norwood was born in Chicago to an alcoholic and a drug addict. His parents split up when he was five. When he was seven, he had to choose whether to move to Washington with his dad or stay with his mom. He went with his dad. They were homeless for two years.

“We bounced around, lived in his van a little bit here and there. My dad has a lot of family in the Tri-Cities, but they didn’t really want us staying with them for too long because my dad’s an addict and I had a lot of anger issues.”

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The Emotional Toll of Fatherlessness

Posted by Lynn Yount, Staff Writer Jun 13, 2018 11:57:38 AM

A common thread among many people who enter the LIFE Recovery program is an absent or abusive father. Samantha’s story reflects the devastating effects of fatherlessness on children, and on the adults they become.

 Samantha was 6 when her mom took the kids and left her dad, who had abused them all. Her parents were both addicts, using drugs to cope with their grief from the sudden death of another child.

Samantha’s childhood was a blur of moving, running away from problems, never putting down roots.

“We would just move on the drop of a dime. I never made friends in school.”

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Forgiving Yourself as Part of Recovery

Posted by Barbara Comito, Marketing Director Jun 7, 2018 10:52:25 AM

Shame says…

  • You are ugly.
  • You are stupid.
  • You are worthless.
  • If people knew the real you, they would hate you.
  • Work harder, do more, try to earn love because who you are is not enough.
  • What you have done is unforgivable.
  • You are unlovable.
  • Just give up.

 The messages of shame are anti-Gospel.

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Gratitude on the Recovery Journey

Posted by Union Gospel Mission Nov 21, 2017 4:16:34 PM

By Kirste Richards, UGM Counselor

Gratitude plays an important role in my ministry as a counselor at the UGM Center for Women and Children in Coeur d’Alene.  It is an important part of my personal life as I strive for excellence in meeting the needs of each individual woman God sends to the Center. And it is also an important part of what I have to offer to women who are seeking relief from suffering, freedom from bondage, and life transformation.  

Women come here to find a new way of life.  They are hoping to end the cycle of addiction, homelessness, and abuse for themselves and for their children. They are reaching out in hope of lasting change.

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